Is it just to share their sorrows with you so that they will feel better? Well that does help to a certain extent. Talking about a problem brings order to the mind so as to position it to deal with it objectively. Having a negative emotion released in the company of an understanding friend dissipates its influence so that the person will start attracting less of the problem. But, there is more that you can do than that!
Contrary to conventional thinking, instead of what you can do with your hands, actions or even money for that person, the greatest help that you can give is actually mind power help! You would probably be thinking what that means is about giving advice and speaking words of encouragement that can change the mind of the person into being more positive. But that idea is only part of it.
The most powerful form of mind power help is psychic influence. You can influence the actions of another by using the power of Cosmic Thoughts. The thoughts you think in your mind send out thoughtwaves that can affect the minds of others. Thought waves are as real as electromagnetic and sound waves. Mind is the most responsive medium to thought waves.
There are two kinds of mental influence you can use. One is visualization and the other is affirmation. When you use visualization, you imagine your friend doing what is best for him/herself. Picture in your mind that your friend is carrying out the action required to solve his/her problem.
See him/her as acting with courage, being strong and filled with positive energy. Watch the amazing things that happen after you do that. Your friend will feel a strong positive urge to do those things and enjoy doing them although he/she may have resisted doing them in the past. They will even acknowledge that they know perfectly well what they are doing is very odd behavior because they never do that before.
When you use affirmation, you send a mental command to the person you wish to influence. In your mind, you think of a statement as though mentally speaking it. Some affirmations can be ‘You are feeling a renewed sense of confidence and power’, ‘You have the courage to do what you need to do’, ‘You are unstoppable in overcoming the problem’, ‘You will succeed and not fail’.
You can also use affirmation by sending a thought into reality. You can think of the statements ‘My friend (Name) is feeling positive’, ‘She is taking action to achieve her goal right now,’ ‘He succeeds in getting what he wants.’
These are just general statements that you can make a lot more specific for the exact situation you friend is facing. Mind controls behavior, not only yours but others as well. You can change a person’s behavior by imagining him/her behaving differently.
This is what praying for another person is really all about. Ask and it shall be giving unto you always. To imagine is to ask. The superconscious always activates in reality what you think about. But since the superconscious operates according to its divine justice, if what you think about is not in harmony with its Higher Will, it will influence other minds to think opposing thoughts for it to activate against your own.
The power thoughts of the righteous will prevail over the thoughts of evil. Both are given what they ask but only one will receive because one gift will destroy the other. When evil prevails, it is because the righteous are mentally passive.
Knowing this helps you to understand how positive thought really works in every area of life.
It is good when others influence you in a way that benefits you. The reverse is also true. It is not good when others influence you in ways that are detrimental to you. When you sense an urge to do something that isn’t really beneficial for you, whether you succumb to that influence or repel it away with an opposing force will depend on the thoughts you constantly hold in your mind.
Rightful thoughts attract rightful influence and repel harmful ones. The same is true for wrongful thoughts. You thoughts can not only affect your own reality but other people’s reality as well. If a group of people think negatively about a person, it will make the reality of that person changing that much more difficult. That person will have to fight not only his own inner conflict keeping him from improving, but the exterior conflict coming from his peer group. The more people imagine a person’s success and well being, the more that person’s reality will be enhanced by the collective mental support of the group.
Usually the reason why others think negatively about someone is because they are just reflecting the negative thoughts that originated from that person. The environment reflects the mind. But we as higher aspects of our environment have conscious control over the reflection process. Everything else may have no choice but to reflect the mind of a person but we can choose not to reflect by purposely thinking differently. Changing reality is our power as conscious beings. When you keep thinking about someone in a negative, disempowering and unhelpful way although it is ‘true’, your thoughts will perpetuate his/her reality.
Start thinking differently and you will affect the situation differently. When you choose not to reflect people’s negative reality creating thoughts, but to reshape their reality with your own positive thoughts instead, it means you are stronger than them. Your reality is stronger than theirs.
If you desire to help someone destroy some form of lack, limitation or error, the correct method is not to think of the person whom you wish to help. The intention to help them is entirely sufficient, as this puts you in mental touch with the person. Then drive out of your own mind any belief of lack, limitation, disease, danger, difficulty or whatever the trouble might be about the person’s situation.
As soon as you have succeeded is doing this the result will have been accomplished, and the person will be free. Sometimes our very own beliefs or mindset of limitation, lack or any other disempowering thing about the person’s reality might be the very thing that is keeping him/her stuck in that reality. The same could be very true when others are affecting our reality the same way with their thoughts of lack and limitation in regards to the situation we are engaging.
That is why it is so important to be with supportive and positive people who believe in the possibilities and abundance of our success. It is also very important to stop believing in lack and limitation of a person’s condition and choose to focus on the possibilities and freedom of being able to achieve what they want.
Thinking in positive, empowering and helpful ways pays off in many ways. You will benefit, your friends will benefit, and even the world will benefit.
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