Consider the following negative statement:
“If only I could get that job.”
This is a negative thought because it is filled with a sense of failure. The person uttering it has little confidence in themselves. They are focused on their lack, and their phrasing suggests that their chances of acquiring their objective is minimal.
Contrast this with:
“When I get that job.”
This is a positive thought because the person who utters it with faith and conviction is filled with hope and confidence. While it is still possible that they may not get that particular job with that particular company, their belief and positive attitude begins opening doors for them that surely would have remained closed otherwise. So if that particular job does not pan out, another like it surely will, because the positive person’s will requires it.
Let us look at this scenario more closely: if indeed that job goes to another, the positive person feels gratitude, knowing that it wasn’t quite a match for them, and feels expectant that a better one is on its way. They are not hopeful, they are expectant because they know that what they will, becomes. Because they think this way, this will always be the story of their lives.
A negative person, on the other hand, becomes even more negative. They think that this is the story of their life, which they blame. They think it is because of the way the world works, which they blame. They may also blame their race, culture, religion, or upbringing, which they also end up blaming. Again, because they think this way, this too will always be the story of their lives.